Interview and Spotlight with Violet Ivey

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WARNING: This interview deals with adult subject matter, I recommend readers be 16+.

1. What’s your name (pen if you prefer) and what are you here to promote?

I’ve had many names over the years. Each new work scenario calls for a different persona. When I was a young escort I went by the name of Candy. But upon becoming a Dominatrix it called for something with a little more vavavoom. The head Mistress named me Mistress Kane.

Violet Ivy is my author name.

I’ve written my memoirs/biography. A peek behind the veil that shrouds the oldest profession in the world.

2. Is this your first book or have you been writing for a while?

This is my first novel but it’s long overdue.

3. Is this book part of a series?

It is not exactly part of a series. I’ve written my second book which is called Sex and Sexuality – The Interviews where I feature 21 unique individuals and their take on love, intimacy, getting laid whatever but from their personal non-mainstream points of view.

4. Tell me a little about the book, what genre, short summary, that kind of thing, also what age group is it meant for?

It’s definitely an over 18’s book. Not that it’s smutty or erotic but it does have adult content.

Synopsis book 1;

Lucky Girl – How I Survived the Sex Industry

The intimate autobiography of an international call girl. Scary, funny and bizarre stories recorded for your amusement, edification or simply for interesting dinner conversation.

The sex industry is clouded in mystery. It has to be to some extent or it wouldn’t survive. But in this age of internet porn, buying pubic hair trimmings online and wife swapping parties it’s about time the veils of mystery were taken down.

For moralists, let’s visit the chicken and the egg scenario. Which came first the prostitute or the client? If there were no clients then obviously there would be no sex workers. But what if there weren’t any prostitutes? Would guys wank themselves silly to porn? Harass their post-menopausal wives? Frequent bars trying their luck? Or hassle the secretary and risk being charged with sexual harassment? Would statistics for rape be on the increase? Is prostitution a necessary evil in our society? Don’t mindlessly believe and quote information spoon fed to you by friends, family or the media. Make an educated decision.

Although it was never my intention to get into this industry, I’ve travelled the world, had incredible experiences and bought several properties. I won’t have to rely on the government pension when I retire.

My closest friends are co-workers, madams and clients. Brilliant people who I would never otherwise have had the good fortune to meet. I will never regret my decision to enter this field. It has not always been a bed of roses, but when I compare it to what my life might have been; cleaning job, shitty boss, marriage, perhaps divorce, mortgage, kids, living in the burbs, scraping by to give my kids a better life than I was destined for, I feel that I have been rescued…..thank God.

Money doesn’t make you happy? Tell that to someone thrown out of his house because he can’t make the payments or the mother who can’t afford Christmas presents for her kids again this year. I’ve been poor. Money equals choices. Options of how to travel on this journey we call life. Did I make some mistakes? Sure! But there’s not too much I’d change. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Money gives security. Poverty causes ulcers. Financial hardship can also make you compromise yourself in ways that being a sex worker never will.

This industry eats its young and damages those not strong enough to cope. Every worker has a different personality, head space, upbringing, personal history and therefore experience. This book is a glimpse of mine. I am not advocating anyone join the profession. That is a personal choice.

When I started out I could never have imagined what my life journey would look like or where I would be now. I don’t even know where in the world I will be in twelve months. What I will be doing? Who I might be bonking, caning or smearing with hot wax? Exciting isn’t it? Carpe diem – seize the day. I’m a lucky girl.

Synopsis book 2;

Sex and Sexuality – The Interviews

Hold onto your hat. This interview book contains some ‘out of the ordinary’ friends I have met in my travels. And I mean way out there. It’s amazing how mainstream these people look when they are on the bus travelling to work. None of them have two heads or gills. And you would never pick their fetishes. It’s only when they choose to reveal them to another that their true nature is exposed. I meet a range of people due to my involvement in the sex industry. There is no way I can be judgemental after some of the kinky stuff I have done and enjoyed. Stones and glass houses. As long as everything is safe, sane and consensual.

When I began this project I had no idea how much fun it would be to investigate sex and sexuality from other viewpoints. It’s been very educational too. Some of these people I already knew and others I sought out for their unique take on different facets of intimacy or simply what gets them off. All the names have been changed of course but their interviews, as bizarre as some of them seem, are one hundred percent real. The interviewees include a sex-change bondage and discipline Mistress, a real life slave, male clients, another high class escort, a brothel madam, a street worker, a man who loves transsexuals and carrots up his arse, a gay guy and a bisexual girl, a paraplegic and a nudist amongst others.

Read about their thoughts, feelings, attitudes and difficulties with regards to expressing their sexuality. Some just want to get laid as often as possible by any means. Others are attempting to find true and lasting happiness. The rest have specific needs that they struggle to meet. You may find a little piece of yourself in each of them.

This book could have been written a hundred times with different people being interviewed. Everyone you pass on the street has their individual preferences and past experiences. There are as many stories as there are humans in the world.

I am indebted to the interviewees as I could not have written these pages without their input. The real message of live and let live comes through the pages of this book. A lot of what is involved in their lives happens behind closed doors. A Mistress does not go into the local pub, in full leathers with a whip, looking for someone to flog. If that is your thing you have to actively seek it out.

Some of these interviews were easy to get. Others required me to search, beg, pay, travel, bribe and use any other means at my disposal to get the interviewee to accept my request. Enjoy reading their perspectives and maybe even learn a thing or two. At the very least you won’t be short of dinner party conversation for a while.

5. How about a little bit about you? (or a lot if you prefer) What makes you tick? What turn’s you on? 😉

I grew up on a small wheat and sheep farm in the outback of Western Australia. A spray of freckles across my nose, pigtails streaming down my back as I swam naked in the local creek to cool off during the endless summers.

Who could have predicted my transformation into one of the world’s most elite, international escorts? The wanton woman satisfying the needs and desires of the most affluent men and women of the globe.

Life was not always easy for me. Mine is a rags-to-riches story from the seedy brothels of the mining town Kalgoorlie to attending the Kentucky Derby and the Oscars on the arms of the most influential men on the face of the planet.

I continue to work in an industry that can either make or break its players. I’ve had to learn how to adapt and hone my expertise to climb to the top of my game. Based in Melbourne, Australia, where sex work is legal, I travel to far flung places, (if the money’s right), as either a courtesan or a fetish Mistress, fulfilling my clients’ needs and desires. Encouragement from friends and family to share my adventures led me to begin a number of books exposing the realities of the sex industry. I introduce readers to myriad bizarre, scary and hilarious people and situations I come across in my travels.

6. What is the trait you value most in others?

Non-judgmental loyalty. Not easy to find with some people once they find out what I do for a living and pigeonhole me into who/what they think I am.

7. If you could have two superpowers what would they be and why?

Oooooh what a fun question.

A bastard/bitch radar would come in handy both at work and in my private life. I’m the sort of person who thinks the best of people until they prove me wrong. This super power would save me a lot of time and heartache.

The ability to fly so I didn’t have to struggle with driving on the left…no the right…no the left again as I travel from country to country.

8. Favourite TV show?

I don’t have a lot of time to watch television and the advertising drives me insane even on pay TV. If I’m on a break I like to switch off by watching a box-set of something from beginning to end; like The West Wing or How I Met Your Mother. I also confess to being a Dr Who fan. Go Billie Piper who of course also starred in Secret Diary of a Call Girl.

Follow up: Secret Diary of a Call Girl was a good show, I agree Billie Piper is excellent (best part of the show for sure Smile)

9. Have you always been interested in writing?

I’ve always been more of a reader. I can pull out a book or my kindle anywhere any time and pick the story up where I left off. Great for me when I travel so much with my work. But I’m really enjoying the feedback my books are getting. Makes me want to continue with telling my stories.

10. What do you think is the best part about being a writer?

I don’t intend to make people uncomfortable with my revelations. I’m sure if they’re not wanting to know they’ll just move on to the next novel. Many ‘normal’ folks in the general public would otherwise never get the opportunity to hear it like it is from someone who’s been in the sex industry for a number of years. They don’t have to agree with me but my writing at least gives them another valid set of ideas to contemplate.

11. What’s the worst part of writing?

EDITING! That takes as least as long as writing the book. My editor is very strict and fair enough. It’s his reputation on the line if my work is full of typos and poor character portrayal.

12. Do you think the future is in E-books? Or will print make a comeback?

I hope for the sake of the environment that E-books take over. E-books also don’t fill up your suitcase. But there’s something wonderful about the smell and feel of a real book.

13. Do you like your job?

Is that a trick question? I have the best job in the world! The people I meet and the experiences I have both in and out of the boudoir?? I wouldn’t swap it for any other job.

14. If you could have a different career/job what would it be?

Hmmm…after my last answer? Let me see…maybe Catwoman? Certainly not Mother Teresa.

Follow up: Catwoman is as sexy as hell, that’s a good choice Winking smile

15. What are you reading right now?

Lonely Planet to be honest. I’m off to Paris next week. But a couple of authors have asked me to read their novels; one’s a fictional book about a working girl in Manhattan. The author wants my feedback about its realism. And the other is a werewolf book. That will keep me busy on the plane. It’s a long way from Melbourne to Europe!

16. What was the last movie you saw?

Man of Steel. Good to see he finally learned to wear his underwear UNDER his tights.

Follow up: Man of Steel was excellent and I agree about the underwear (just don’t something I noticed right off Smile)

17. What was the last book you really loved?

I reread The Happy Hooker as I’m going to stay with its fabulous author Xaviera Hollander in Amsterdam when I’m in Europe. Such a classic. Wasn’t she so far ahead of her time?

18. Have you ever met someone you only talked to online before?

Of course! Most of my bookings come in over the internet. I even met my editor that way. Hell I haven’t even met you!

Follow up: I can’t see us meeting in person but I guess anything’s possible Smile You would be surprised there are still people I’ve interviewed that haven’t met someone from the internet. I agree though the world has changed a lot in that respect.

19. Do you go to Sci-Fi/Fantasy or any other kinds of conventions?

I’m trying to imagine what a hooker convention would look like. Something resembling the bar scene out of Star Wars I think maybe. I’m sure there would be a lot of perverts. What would they talk about? How to put a condom on without using your hands? The latest new flavours of massage oil? New, glow-in-the-dark up-the-bum tricks?

Follow up: I meant a geeky type convention but I agree a hooker convention would be a cool scene (except for all the perverts).

20. Do you ever read comic books/graphic novels?

I come across enough comic book-like characters every day at work. That might have to be my next foray in writing. I’ve read a few novels I would consider graphic. I get lost in books as long as they are realistic. I read all sorts of genres.

21. How do you feel about promotion? Any tips for other writers?

You have to treat it like a real job. The more you put into it the more results you will receive. And you never know where it will lead you. I’ve just been offered my own radio show. Might be the first in the world, certainly the first in Australia where a working girl has hosted her own show. It’s on late of course 10pm until midnight. I can’t wait to interview my brand of guests. It will be sure to make a few eardrums pop.

Follow up: This sounds like a fun show, can you listen to it over the internet? With the time difference it would be morning for me Smile.

22. Favourite author?

Only one? You’re a tough interviewer. Let me think…John Grisham never disappoints. He writes a book you can really get your teeth into.

23. Favourite person (living or dead)?

Audrey Hepburn. So genteel, beautiful, graceful. Hers was a rags to riches story too so I can identify a lot with her.

24. Would you consider yourself religious?

My parents are and they brought me up with good values and morals. I know some of you are choking out there but I only offer a service for a price, the same as your doctor or teacher does. I don’t lie, cheat or steal. I’m upfront about what my customers are getting for their money. It’s one of the most honest professions that way. Imagine this…you’re hungry, you go to a bakery, look at all the different types of cakes, buns and breads they have on offer. You make your selection and are temporarily satisfied. That’s the same as my industry…including the cream.

Follow up: This is a little off topic but I agree with you about honesty here. I think prostitution should be legal everywhere like it is in a few places now. As you say people need a healthy way to explore their sexual needs and desires. If it were legal it could be monitored by the government to insure health standards, pimps would be eliminated, child sex and abuse towards women would decrease (I hope) and there would be less exploitation and danger involved. If it’s between two consenting adults why should society interfere? And yes I mean for men prostitutes as well (my friend is a cop and we don’t have any here but I know they exist). I’ll get down from my soap box now Smile

25. What do you think is the biggest problem in the world today?

Where does one start? Genocide, AIDS, cancer, starvation, inequality of wealth, broken homes, disrespect of parents, global warming…really how do I answer this question without writing an saga?

Follow up: Yeah the world is screwed up bad, I just hope we don’t blow ourselves up or completely destroy the environment.

26. If you had all the money you ever wanted, what would you do?

Set up huge dog shelters where they could play and relax without being given a time frame for adoption or having to face the needle. I’d like to rescue every dog that’s being maltreated or is homeless. Dogs love you unconditionally. They could really teach humans a thing or two about trust, loyalty and relationships.

27. What’s the secret to happiness?

You don’t ask the easy ones do you?

Live and let live. Don’t judge others and insist they take on your view point.

Realise that life is short. This is not a trial run. No one ever lay on their death bed and wished they’d had more stress in their life. Maybe more sex…but never more stress. Go fix that.

Thanks for taking the time to talk with me, best of luck with your book and hey I’m a writer too. E-mail me anytime if you want to chat thanks again!


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